By Cari Andreani
Have you ever said something you wish you hadn’t? I mean, as soon as it left your mouth you wanted to grab it and shove it back down your throat- or better yet, throw it in the garbage and never think of uttering again? Have you experienced days and days of arguing with your spouse over one little comment you wish you never said? You have?! Me too!
In marriage, we each will say things we don’t mean, (if it hasn’t happened yet, don’t worry- It will!) So what do we do? I’m thinking: When in doubt- shut the mouth 🙂 Speaking every little thought we have, just isn’t wise. Our sarcastic, passive-aggressive remarks aren’t worth a single day of strife in our life. It is so much better to take that thought and stop it before you voice it. Ladies, it just gets us into trouble!
How many times have you said something in half-jest and your husband took it totally wrong and it caused an argument? How many times have you made a sly comment and it hurt him? How many times have you said something out of frustration and it backfired? Yeah- me too. I have learned that it isn’t worth it. Oh, Lord, please help us.
The Bible says:
“And we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”
2 Corinthians 10:5
Every time we think of saying something- make that thought obedient to Christ. Is what I am about to say how Christ would have me respond? Pray for God to give you’re the right attitude. And when in doubt- shut your mouth 🙂
Disclaimer- now I am not advocating the fact that we don’t say anything in confrontation to our husbands. We have to address issues in our marriage. (“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17) If we just stuff in the things that bother us- we will just explode! But if you do need to address something, it should be in love and glorifying to God, not a sarcastic, hurtful remark.
God gives us women a special responsibility and a wonderful and important role in our families. Sometimes shutting our mouth, actually opens the door for God to work. Take it from a friend who loves you- be careful with your words. I am praying for God to help me with mine. 🙂
“Lord, help us to be godly women. Let us be wise in what we say. Forgive us when we have been hurtful with our words in the past. And from now on, let our words always be encouraging and uplifting, and always pleasing to You.”
A noble woman “speaks wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”