by Cari Andreani
I was recently reminded of the pain I avoided by having a second chance at my marriage. The divorce rate in our country is sadly at a staggering rate. If you have not been affected by divorce, you know someone who has. Divorce is such a painful thing, and sadly, I know many women who have regretted making the decision to divorce and break up their family. I understand sometimes it is necessary to divorce, but many times it can be avoided.
Let me just encourage you today to stay strong. Fight for your marriage! Don’t let the enemy even put the thought of divorce in your mind. You have to believe that failing is not an option!
Dr. James Dobson writes:
“Don’t permit the possibility of divorce to enter your thinking. Even in
moments of great conflict and discouragement, divorce is no solution. It
merely substitutes a new set of miseries for the ones left behind. Guard
your relationship against erosion as though you were defending your very
lives. Yes, you can make it together. Not only can you survive, but you can
keep your love alive if you give it priority in your system of value.” (from Love for a Lifetime)
I can tell you there is hope for your marriage. I am living proof. I almost divorced my husband after 4 years of marriage. God brought us back together and we have been married 16 wonderful years. I have never regretted working on my marriage, but I know I would have regretted giving up. Don’t give up! You won’t regret it either.
Some great tools that are out there to help are:
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Love and Respect by Dr. Eggerichs (these is in our book review page)
The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick (from the movie Fireproof)
Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
- Marriage retreats. Look for retreats in your area. Ask your local church if there are any marriage enrichment retreats or seminars.
- Surround yourself with godly examples, friends, Bible study, and anything that will encourage you in your marriage. Get rid of anything poisoning your relationship- it is so worth it!
Be determined to keep you family together. Don’t give up! Divorce is no solution.