By Melissa Belt
Some people say, “Women are a Mystery”.
I don’t think so.
I think we are pretty candid about what we want. We laugh when things are good, cry when things are bad and ask questions when we don’t understand. Men on the other hand are STILL a mystery…at least to me.
My sweet husband Jamie and I have known each other for over 25 years. He knows me more than I know myself at times! He knows how to gingerly prepare me for bad news, or how to coax me into helping with a chore I totally despise. He surprises me with flowers because he knows they are my favorite guilty pleasure. He makes reservations for my favorite restaurant. He’s just…awesome. He could write a book about how to make a woman happy.
I on the other hand, am NOT so good with those things. So, on my quest to be the “most awesome wife ever”, I decided to do some research; you know, “self help” stuff. I mean, I am in stiff competition trying to “out-do” my Honey!
Someone advised me to read Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Basically he discusses the differences between how men and women need love differently. What an eye opener! So, I decided to take some advice from the book…to try to express my love to Jamie differently than what we are used to. Not my usual “lovey dovey” verbiage, but more testosterone filled, masculine RESPECT words! It’s totally foreign to me, but Dr. Eggerichs is the expert. What I told Jamie was heartfelt, but awkward at first. He responded positively! I asked him if he liked my new “love talk” and he says he does.
By the end of the book, I learned a whole lot more about men than I ever imagined! AND…I earned brownie points with my Honey. So, I suggest you do some research, self help stuff keep striving to keep your man happy. I am still trying, but sometimes when I tell him how much I love and respect him, in those other manly words, he says to me, “Was that in the book?”